Friday, May 05, 2006

A blogger and mother offers good advice to young woman

The Raleigh News & Observer reported today that a Duke University undergrad woman believes she was raped. Here's part of The N&O's report:

The woman, who first met the man at the party, told police that she had been drinking since the afternoon and that, although she was not used to taking drugs, she got a strong dose of the marijuana smoke.
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Because of her intoxication, the woman's memory is sporadic for the rest of the night, but she does remember the man walking her home, she told police. She told police she remembers being in bed later and hearing, then seeing the man as he left her dorm room. He left his contact information on her computer.

The next morning, she felt like something had happened, according to the search warrant.
Blogger Betsy Newmark, a mother of two daughters and a school teacher, responded to The N&O's story with some advice:
Ladies, don't get stinking drunk, inhale marijuana, hang out in a guy's room, and then spend the next day wondering if some guy did something to you.
I think Betsy's advice will upset some feminists at Duke and elsewhere but it sounds fine to me.

It's the just the sort of advice my wife and I hope out granddaughter hears again and again.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Here's some advice to young men: Drunk college women are rattlesnake dangerous. You have no defense. If you see one, call the police.

Anonymous said...

They are worse than rattlesnake dangerous. If you are bitten by a rattlesnake almost nobody will rush to the snake's defense.

A drunk college woman doesn't even have to know what happened for her to ruin your life.

Anonymous said...

Good thing that advice comes from a woman....

-AC